Updates and Rants!

Life update! Not a whole lot going on right now except for one thing, and that’s all I really want to talk about right now, I just need to vent it out of my system before I do something regrettable. Hopefully I don’t do that right here, but here goes.

I like a girl. Hold on, I have to change my music right now, Metallica is just not helping me stay objective here and I need that right now. Where was I? Oh right a girl. I like this girl, and for the sake of time I’m not going to go about and describe her. I asked this girl on a date, mostly because we’ve hung out a fair amount I thought that things were going well. She said she had to check with her roommate about some plans but would get back to me, that is fine.

Fast forward several hours and I receive a text message from her with two purposes. One was to
“make sure we’re on the same page with our friendship” If anyone doesn’t immediately get this, it means I was being friend zoned. Second was to tell me that she would not be able to make a date, shocker! So I asked a girl on a date for the first time in years and it blew up in my face. Big deal. I decided to take a risk in my life by doing something I didn’t know for sure would work out and it didn’t, that is the way things go right? I’m just going to vent for a bit about what I think about all this.

What on earth makes a girl think that dating causes so much drama and awkwardness? If you have two rational and intelligent people both of those things are so easily avoidable that it seems silly that so many girls use this as a main point for why they should not date a guy but rather, “Just be friends” It’s seriously bogus. I mean, I’m not going to lie, 2 of my best friends are an ex-girlfriend and someone I asked out but got rejected. You know how awkward things are between us with regards to talking about dating and whatnot? Not at all. Why? Because despite the fact that I was in high school, I and all parties involved acted like bloody adults about it. Maybe that’s what I’m missing here. Getting past these high school ideologies requires a major shift in the ways that people perceive and understand their world. Maybe not everyone makes that transition as fast as I would think.

               That would make sense generally. In this specific case though I can confirm that this individual displayed maturity far beyond a high school mentality. So where does that leave us? Maybe the maturity I saw was but a brief glimpse, when in reality the mind was still rooted in high school. This is the most likely reasoning. Another is fear. Fear of several things, an obvious one being the fear of what CAN happen when you trust another person and emotionally invest in them. Another fear is that if you spend your time on one person you might miss “The One.” This is just so bad though. I mean don’t people remember that general authorities of the church have said straight up that there is no such thing as a “Soul Mate”? Yes they have. Fear of what others might think of your relationship and how that could affect all of your other relationships. Fear of finding out the person you’re investing in could turn out to not be what you thought they were. Lastly there is the fear of losing that person as a friend if the relationship goes south, but as I stated before, intelligent, level headed people can avoid this one so easily that its silly to even mention it, however it is my belief that this one is the one that plays the biggest factor in most girls minds. It’s probably why if I name all my best friends the overwhelming majority are girls. (Dillon being the only guy to make that list if you’re wondering, also if you are reading this, you are also on that list. Hope that makes your day.)

               Ok, I feel better now. Thanks for reading and whatnot.

               Closing thought. Sometimes I wish things were simpler like in Calvin and Hobbes, those two had each other and they didn’t need anything or anyone else. At the same time though, I like all the confusion and chaos that engulfs my life now, makes things interesting. 

Still... This would be nice

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